“What have I done?” , “why did I do that?” , “what will people think of me now?” , “how am I supposed to live with myself after doing that?” , “will I ever be forgiven?” , “am I worthy of forgiveness?” , “what was I thinking when I did that?” , “she really did not deserve what I did to her” , “definitely karma will catch up with me.”
These thoughts linger in your mind and with an expression of regret, you ask yourself these questions. You can not help but attribute fault to yourself for the mistake or harm you did to that particular person. To be honest, it was an unintended harm but then, the fact that the harm was done can not be neglected.
Now you have subscribed to self-sabotage in the sense that you undermine your success and happiness. A moment of happiness is immediately dispersed in thin air, you say to yourself, “how can I even be happy after what I did?”
Every attempt to try and let go as proved abortive.
The scenario happened a long time ago but it is still fresh in your memory like it happened a minute ago. It is as though your brain just wouldn’t forget, it just wants to have you punished for that act. Now, you do not even bother to overcome the flashing images in your head, you just leave it to keep playing while you wallow in deep pain and regret.
I understand that letting go seems hard but if you would let go, you would be free. You’ve been holding on to that emotion of guilt long enough. It is high time you stopped holding on to that guilt.
It is a good thing that you recognise that you did wrong but holding on to your guilt is in no way the proper thing to do. You probably have apologised to this person but was not forgiven or you probably could not bring yourself to apologise. Either ways, it is time to break free!
The answer to guilt is grace. Everything that is needed to deal with guilt is found in Jesus Christ. He offered Himself on that cross so that your sins would be forgiven. Do not hold on to your guilt. He took it all away on that cross when He shed His blood for you.
Seek the forgiveness of God. Never forget this.
God is the one who forgives all sins regardless of how weighty it might seem, if you ask for His forgiveness.
1 John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
Every wrongdoing is done against His command and His will first before the one it was done against, but a broken and contrite heart He will not despise.
He is the only one that can free you completely from guilt and He is willing to if you would let Him. He cleanses all unrighteousness. Yes, you read that right. He cleanses all unrighteousness.
After you have asked for forgiveness from God, of which He has definitely forgiven you, what to do is to reflect on what you could have done differently, learn from your mistakes and forgive yourself.
Consider making amends and take concrete actions to repair the relationship or situation, make restitution if possible.
Release the guilt, focus on the present and future and then you’re good to go.
Grow in the knowledge of God and have every junk in your mind replaced by the word of God gradually.
Remember, your guilt are not yours to keep, they are God’s to take away.
You are loved by God and He doesn’t want you holding on to the guilt He has forgiven you of already.
There is no more condemnation for those who are in Christ (Romans 8:1).
Your worth is far above rubies.
Check out my previous blog article here: "What She's Scared Of
It explains what fear is, the tripartite nature of humans and many more.
Happy reading!
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